Uplifting Our Children
As a parent, I ensure that my children are on the path that God has mapped out for their lives. One of the things I do is pray that: God gives them the desires of their hearts, His Favor, His protection, Holy Spirit-filled friends; great teachers, and that my children draw near to God. I’m always cheering my children on and providing them with guidance on matters that they are concerned with. When I was pregnant with my oldest child, I bought every book I could find on: pregnancy, nutrition, babies, new moms, and parenting. Throughout my pregnancy, I followed all the suggestions from the books that I read on what foods to eat and etc. I went to parenting workshops, as well. Lastly, I even bought Mozart compact discs, children’s Bibles, children books, and fun learning educational videos for them as they reached different learning stages in their lives.
While at the age of 22, I wanted to ensure that I would have the right knowledge to properly care for my children. During that time, I was stationed in Germany due to being in the military and my husband receiving assignment orders for this place. In other words, since we both were in the US Army, we had a choice to enroll into the dual military joint domicile program where we both received the same duty station if one of us got an assignment. Both of my children were born in Germany and were delivered by the same doctor who was fluent in German and English. Lobe Gott—Praise God!
Currently, my children are now 19 (son) and 17 (daughter) and they are attending college. Looking back on my journey as a new mom, I know that God made it possible for me to obtain knowledge outside of my medical experience to care for my children. I have always had a nurturing and loving nature, but I wanted more for my children by learning as much as I could. What mom doesn’t want more for their children? I don’t know any and if I did, I would probably encourage them to get professional counseling. God is good. Amen. With that being said, I believe that it is important to spend quality time with your children by organizing family time such as watch movies, family-style dining, game night, share laughs and conversations.
Godly Words of Affirmation
When you share a list of positive Godly words of affirmation with your children it helps motivate and uplift them. With all the bullying going on in school these days, one must ensure that their children are encouraged daily before another child unknowingly tries to break their spirit. In a review of this, research shows that most bullying mentalities in children develop in a home that cultivates hate, jealousy, and discord. Moreover, children who endure such harm could potentially experience a flight or fight response.
With that being said, I strongly believe in reporting bullying to school staff. However, I do not want the children who are bullying others to be suspended. Instead, I would rather they receive some form of professional counseling from their school counselor. One of my favorite Bible verses about children is “Children are a blessing and a gift from the Lord.” (Psalm 127:3 CEV) This scripture alone could empower children and boost their self-esteem. Lastly, words of affirmation help children feel encouraged and prevent them from having their self-esteem level drop due to bullying in schools.
I have created a list of Godly and positive words of affirmation for children:
A Shining Light
|“You are the light of the world…” Matthew 5:14-16|
|A Smart Person||
“But there is a spirit within people, the breath of the Almighty within them, that makes them intelligent.” Job 32:8
|A Supportive Friend||
“A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.” Proverbs 17:17
|A Gift from God||
“Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.” Psalm 127:3
|Blessed and Highly Favored||
“Surely, Lord, You bless the righteous; You surround them with Your favor as with a shield.” Psalm 5:12
|Courageous and Cool||
“Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9
“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things He planned for us long ago.” Ephesians 2:10
|Protected by God||
“He alone is my refuge, my place of safety; He is my God, and I trust Him.” Psalm 91:2
Parent & Faith Coaching
Speaking words of affirmation to children empowers them. I believe parents should create a list of their child’s goals, strengths, and weaknesses. For instance, the list should contain areas that they may need some coaching in. As parents, we are our children’s first coach and biggest supporters. One of the common areas of concern that children face is: how they socialize with their peers. Some strengths in this area could be confidence and happiness. In terms of what strength means it could very well be just having confidence when speaking to their peers. Two types of weaknesses could be a lack of confidence and unhappiness when interacting with their peers.
How could one help their child boost their confidence when socializing with peers? I would suggest using one of the following coaching tools: Godly positive words of affirmation and this could help your child gain a Christ like mind. Be God minded. Amen. As a coaching tool, ask questions about the words of affirmation—structured in this fashion: how are you considered courageous and cool? For example, your child should answer by saying: God is with them. Recreate a scenario where your child could learn how to make friends by using imagination. Further, discuss ways your child could be confident while interacting with peers.
Throughout the scenario-based method include positive and negative outcomes and how to respond to it. By doing this you are helping your child problem solve and build resilience. Give words of encouragement when using negative outcome and give a positive solution to a negative experience. After discussing a negative situation, remind your children about forgiving friends. This is a good scripture to share with your children before or after they have a disagreement with their friends. “You will keep your friends if you forgive them, but you will lose your friends if you keep talking about what they did wrong.” (Proverbs 17:9 CEV). Most importantly be that friend your children could depend on, while at the same time being a responsible parent.
Another encouraging method one could use is to find sports or creative arts programs that your child might be interested in. Usually, there are school-age programs, where you could sign your children up for after school clubs. In addition, creating family fun activities in the home is another way to build unity within one’s family. For instance, having a movie night, pick a place to visit, game night, and/or bike rides throughout your neighborhood are all positive ways to spend time as a family. Additionally, cultivating a safe and fun-loving environment helps one stay in perfect peace. The Bible says we can renew our minds in Christ and get faith by hearing the Word of God. Who said our children can’t benefit from this? Please share the good news with your children. Amen. Glory to God. There are times when a child might not have confidence or happiness dilemmas. In fact, it could be something that appears as having difficulty dealing with stress, divorce, siblings, and self-esteem. In cases such as that, I highly recommend professional counseling. To continue, I believe it’s totally fine for one to interact cautiously while socializing with others. Moreover, if it appears to be affecting one’s child in a negative way than I would suggest making an appointment with your child’s school counselor or obtaining a professional counselor outside of school.
In the end, “wise words satisfy like a good meal; the right words bring satisfaction.” (Proverbs 18:20) Yes, words have power and God’s word is True. Amen. When someone speaks Godly words of affirmation over themselves, they are spending time in God’s word and they are renewing their minds. As a parent, it is important to be a positive Christ minded role model who your children could emulate. To continue, it’s important to find out the dreams and desires that the Lord has put upon their hearts so that you can help them achieve that goal, in Christ. Lastly, I believe it is important to take good care of the gifts the Lord has given us which is our children.